Monday, September 17, 2012

Farewell

Had a hearty dinner with my family today.. it seems like they're quite rest assured. :)

Meet up with different group of friends and relative for farewell lately.. Now we're all ready to go!

Flying in 2 days time, excited and looking forward!

God bless..for a safe trip. :)

Sunday, September 16, 2012

不要想太多

一切都会船到桥头自然直,慢慢适应,慢慢看看不一样的世界,慢慢感受另一边的精彩。

会好好的,至少我们有彼此可以互相照顾和鼓励。:)
要努力,回来要不一样,要根懂事,根有墨水!

再多4天!

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Count down 9!

Left last min packing to do, everything else is settled!

Next Monday will have a farewell dinner with my Ler family~

好朋友(不)只是朋友

 

当初的我们,也只是好朋友。。
没有自信的我们,都以为对方好自信。

我们是两个完全没有任何联系,不同年龄与背景的人,但有很多相同的地方。

我们有说不完的话题,很喜欢在MSN闹来闹去。。

认识他不久后, 我恋爱了,他还在寻找他的那个她。

我很喜欢问他,“你的眼光是不是放太高了? 为什么都没有女朋友?”
他说:“我不好看,我身旁的女孩子都喜欢帅哥。”

是啦, 他当时真的不帅 (没有现在阳光),但其实还算顺眼和蛮幽默的。。
不过,我当时从没想过我们会有任何可能,所以心里只把他当哥哥。

几个月后,我分手了,他安慰我。
那时还小,心脆也很快复原。

每当他问我一些奇怪的问题时,我都会一直提醒自己我们是不可能的。

第一,认识他时我才17岁,在读ITE, 他22岁在NTU读大学,他好像对我来说是不同世界的人,很怕他会觉得我笨。(非常没自信哈哈)

第二,我当时的英语非常烂,而他家又是讲英语的。

第三,我就是老觉得他会看不起我。

说到底,就是我的自信不足。
但其实他也没有自信,对于他的脸的问题,他觉得很多人都在看他的皮肤很差。
我鼓励他说没有关系,有一天他会遇到一个女孩子是会看到他的内涵的。

他说: “要等到几时。。我想我30岁都结不了婚的咯”
我回答他: “如果我们到28岁还没有嫁出去,我就嫁给你咯”
他回:“Ok!你讲的啊!” 

过了一断日子,我终于进了Poly, 他很为我开心。
在我跟他说我又踏入一段感情时,他突然很生气。
我问他发生什么事?

他说其实他喜欢我很久了。

我问他:“是什么时候开始的?”
他说: “在你还没和之前那个在一起就开始了,本来想等我毕业后再跟你说的。
可是现在又太晚了。没事啦,我放弃了。”

我吓到了。心想,聪明的人因该都喜欢聪明的女孩的啊。。
但是那时也觉得,可能他也不是很认真的吧,都说已经放弃了。
不可能的啦,他不可能会真的喜欢我的啦。
那时就这么带过了,我们再也没有提了。。继续当好朋友。。 

他祝福我,我也似乎觉得那时很幸福。

在他快毕业时,他很担心成绩,我跟他说他一定会毕业得很好的,因为在我心里他是最聪明的!

不久他终于毕业了,很开心的SMS我说他拿了“First Class Honour!” 
我恭喜他,跟他说我早就预料到了,他的努力没有白费。:) 那时真的觉得他好厉害。(现在还是!)
 

 他踏入社会做工了,也开始变忙了。
他尝试和别的女孩约会,我知道了也非常的支持他。
有一段还以为会有结果的,但那个女孩结果是已经有男朋友了,到后面才跟他说。
当时他情绪蛮低落的,我跟他说再等等看,会遇到对的人的。。

很快的,我也快毕业了。在我的Poly最后一年的尾端,在我快毕业的时候,我放弃了两年的感情。
 那时家里也发生了好多事,我没有去面试空姐,没有飞。我把从小的梦想放弃掉了。
 
他鼓励我去找别的梦想,他提议我去尝试酒店服务,同样是高级服务行,只是没有的飞咯。

虽然很难过,但我还是听了,面试一次就成功了。
那段在酒店的日子,真的是又累又开心。哈哈。

我们都做工了,长大了。他也开始多约我出去吃饭,看电影,Kbox etc. (后来才知道是因为做工比较有钱才敢约我的,哈哈)他一直都很照顾我,很体贴,总是让我走在里面因为马路边比较危险。在车里总会问我会不会冷,我放工了他再累都要来接我,因为一个女孩子晚上回家很不安全,而且他也是想带我出去吃饭。。 那时回家的路总是非常的慢,他会不知为什么老是要到我家时把车的数度放慢下来,后来才知道他是不舍得分开。

我们都不敢跨越好朋友的界限,因为害怕可能会失去一个好朋友。。

 做工不久后,我告诉他我遇到了一个人,但不知道是不是对的。
他终于忍不住勇敢的表白得很明确了。

我记得他说:“我不要再傻傻站在一旁等,等到你可能会和别人结婚。我不要后悔没有争取。”

我当时还是不敢,我觉得我配不上他。
我们都知道彼此的秘密,互相鼓励,我很怕如果我们以后遇到分手,我的好朋友也不见了。

但他很执着,也很有心。我始终还是动摇了,因为当他承认喜欢我时,一切已经不一样了,我们之间多了一份尴尬。

六年了,我们终于一起,我们知道我们都不想放弃对方这个好朋友,所以说好要努力维持我们的感情,希望能结婚。

一起后,我们的默契真的好到受不了。。有时他不说,我也知道他要说什么。
很多次我们都很惊讶彼此那么的了解对方。
我想这就是当了多年的好朋友的好处吧!

当然我们也遇到很多问题,也和其他情侣一样会吵架。
但我们都想办法用最好的方式解决,然后不再为同样的事争吵。
经过了那些争吵后,我们更深的了解彼此,知道这是别人不能轻易取代的。

我知道没有人会再像他那样了解我,爱我和保护我。
他也知道,在他什么都没有的时候,他在我心里已经是最厉害的了。

一起两年后,我们确定了要用我们的一辈子来爱对方,结婚了。

我们的感情就像一盆花一样,慢慢的在开花了。。
它不会是永远,因为人生有生老病死,
但如果我们好好照顾它的话,它可以维持很久很久。

我们已经承诺不能轻易的放弃对方。
现在的我们,不只是好朋友,也是好夫妻。:)

PS:
我们之前一直在找,想找另一个比自己好朋友更好的人。
其实他/她就在眼前。

Sunday, September 9, 2012

Almost a week

Hello! Its almost a week now since my wisdom tooth extraction, it has been great so far, and I've been eating quite well too, had chili and black pepper crab feast last night with the in-laws + pak pak + shu shu's family as a farewell dinner yesterday.. (Thanks for the ang baos!)

Count down already! Continue thinking of what else to pack over to cambridge.. me and hubby are both happy, excited, as well as uncertain cos even though we're both very looking forward to our new life there for the coming 2 years, we're unsure of what to expect in the foreign country which both of us haven't been to before. :)

Nevertheless, I believe it will be a kind of life experience for both of us, we'll definitely be more loving and bonded after this 2 years as we only have each other to depend on in a complete new environment with a completely different culture for us to adapt on. I'm sure we will be able to adapt fast and get to enjoy our life there.. (its always good to be positive :D)

We're both sure we're gonna miss the food in Singapore and the people we love here..

BUT, we're both also excited to be able to travel! :D

YAY 11 more days!!! :D

PS: "The Vow" is a good and touching movie! Watched it with Hubby and we both agree that the love between them are so unconditional and true.. true love is non-selfish and non-calculative.. true love is when you're happy only when the person you love are happy..

It reminds me of the famous love quote by Mignon McLaughlin 

"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person."

I'm so inspired. ;) 


Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Day 2

Today wake up without much pain too.. I remembered the last time I took out on the right side, it was quite painful... its either the pain killer super duper strong this time, or my nerve got affected due to the surgery? Hopefully not... but its gonna be ok after 6 months if its really the nerve problem as per what doctor said... (in exchange for no pain recovery also ok luh.. :))

Felt tightness around the surgerical area, also some swelling... can't wait for these to go away!

Not too bad actually, I had a hearty big breakfast deluxe meal today for breakfast! :D

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Felt kinda bored today and lazy to do packing...so went to research about the place we gonna stay in cambridge.. Its in Churchill College, hubby came out with funny way to make me remember the address.. which is not suitable to share it in public, haha! Anyway the method works wonder for me, I can write out our UK address immediately anywhere, anytime! :D

Exciting facts below on the flat we gonna expect! :D

Wolfson Studio Flat (Churchill College)-

20 studio flats (on the top floor). There is a community room and a laundry for residents and in the middle of the building is a communal garden/playground. Priority for the studio flats are for those with partners. The whole building has been completely re-built since 2008 and all the residences have independent electric heating and are highly insulated. Hot water is provided centrally from solar thermal panels and a central boiler and is included in the rent.

In the studio flats the main living space has sliding partitions so that the bedroom area can be closed off, if you wish.

Each flat measures about 30 sq metres and is furnished and has the following accommodation:
  • Large bed-sitting room and kitchen area (with 4'6" bed, seats, desks and storage cupboards)
  • Shower Room with WC
The kitchen area includes a fridge, freezer and cooker. 


 
The ground level is for family with kids, so not for us. We will be staying at the studio flat on the top level. Its gonna be small + cozy! :D

Our visa has been approved, we should be able to collect it in few days time! :D
 
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Received a small surprise today...
 
 
I'm so blessed! :)
 
Feel super thankful for all the caring phone calls from my MIL before my wisdom tooth surgery...
Both in laws are super caring and keep reminding me to drink pao shen and rest enough etc..
My own parents have no idea about my surgery though, didn't have chance to tell them cos they're always busy and I seldom get to see them too because they're always not in SG. Nevertheless, 我已经习惯了, so its perfectly fine with me. :)  
 
Can't wait for the Simtech family day on coming Sat!
 
Cherish the time spend with family... :)
 

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

No more wisdom tooth! :D

I know that this day gonna come.. and I am super duper fucking glad that it FINALLY came...

Finally the surgery is over!!!
No more fucking wisdom tooth!
 
 

God bless for speedy recovery! :D